What is your message to someone who is thinking about suicide?
Sometimes, when difficult things happen, it can feel like you can’t imagine a way out, and you might feel that no one cares. You might also think that no one would understand. I’ve learned that many people on campus care and that much good comes from telling someone about what you’re going through. It may feel challenging to take initial steps when reaching out for support. However, seeking help can spark the hope you need to build a future that may be hard to imagine in the middle of a crisis.
What would you tell someone who is feeling unsure about seeking support?
You matter. I care about students, and I want to help when they struggle. I’ve seen students turn the corner on seemingly impossible challenges, and I never want to miss an opportunity to help someone connect with professional support. Someone somewhere knows your value and the opportunities your future can bring. When we are feeling down, it can be helpful to find someone who can help us build new possibilities and find hope. The courage to seek out someone who can listen to what you are experiencing can help you find a way forward. That person is out there, and you deserve to find the support you need.
Why does suicide prevention matter to you?
I sum up my job in three words: “help students flourish.” I work with people who are high academic achievers and with students who are learning about communication and leadership. I’ve learned that highly successful students may mask challenges and quietly tuck away their pain through their public successes. Anyone can experience thoughts of suicide, and everyone deserves support and care. You are not invisible to me. I want to help build a caring campus community where students feel seen and supported. Together, we can find a way forward even when it may feel impossible. I want to see you flourish.
How do you cope when things get tough?
First, I like to shut out what brings me down. I get off the Internet, which can sometimes be tough to do. Then I exercise. You don’t have to be a marathoner, weightlifter, or Olympic swimmer to experience the benefits of exercise. Walking in a safe space can help clear your mind from overwhelming thoughts. Exercise can also be a powerful tool to help release painful emotions. When I failed to reach an important goal, experienced financial hardship, let a loved one down, or lost someone I loved, I turned to exercise to help me cope. Don’t worry about getting ripped and beating everyone else in the gym. Set your goals and focus on coping strategies that feel right for you.
What gives you hope?
Many people struggle with self-criticism and negative self-talk, saying things we wouldn’t allow others to say to ourselves. If this is something you experience, talking about it and reaching out for support can help shift this negative inner dialogue and allow you to envision a brighter future. There are many famous and untold stories where people have been able to imagine a new future and possibility. When stressed, I stretch my imagination to find new solutions, ideas, and opportunities. I ask for help.